Happiness Workbook to help make us happier- produced by BBC Breakfast

As the name suggests it's all about happiness and whether some simple daily actions can have a positive impact on how happy we are and how happy we make the people around us.
We're going to start by asking you to think about how you're feeling about life and what happiness means for you.

We will then ask you to try a few simple actions out over the course of a week. They are all things that recent scientific research suggests can have a positive impact on people's feelings of happiness and fulfilment.

We want to hear how you get on with the actions as part of your normal daily routine. We're interested in how you choose to do them, whether you find them enjoyable or difficult and how you feel about it all at the end.

Can we affect our happiness?
Each of us is unique and how happy we are depends on lots of different factors including our genes, our circumstances and our approach to life.
We often think that our circumstances – where we live, what we have, what we earn and so on – have a big effect on how happy we are. However, these things tend to have much less impact than most people expect.

Instead, research suggests that a big part of how happy we are is determined by our attitude and choices, rather than our circumstances.
So we have an opportunity to make ourselves and others happier by the way we approach our lives and the actions we choose to take.

About this workbook
This workbook is intended for you, so please write things which are a true reflection of how you feel. There are no right or wrong answers.
The Happiness Challenge was put together by Action for Happiness to support a BBC Breakfast feature on happiness. Action for Happiness is a charity which aims to encourage and enable the move to a happier society. Find out more and join the movement at www.actionforhappiness.org
The Happiness Challenge was developed in partnership with Headspace which specialises in teaching mindfulness meditation. You can find out more at www.getsomeheadspace.com

Your happiness
Overall, how happy would you say you are these days?
Give your rating on a scale of 1 (low) to 10 (high).
What is happiness?
Take a moment to think about what happiness means to you. Note down whatever comes in to your head.
Now think about specific things that often make you happy. These could be activities, people, places or anything else that comes to mind.
Score out of 10
What does happiness mean to you?
Example: Feeling good about how things are going
What things make you happy?
Example: A relaxing day at home with my family

The Happiness Challenge
We would like you to try some simple actions in your daily lives, initially over the course of a week. They may be things you already do. If not, then you may want to make them part of your on-going routine if they're useful.
They are all things that recent scientific research has shown can have a positive impact on people's feelings of happiness and fulfilment.
Be Mindful
Do less and notice more
Be Grateful
Remember the good things
Be Kind
Do things for others
Want more action ideas?
These are just three of the many areas where scientific research suggests we can take action to make both ourselves and others happier.
For more evidence-based ideas to increase happiness and well-being check out the Five Ways to Wellbeing, developed by nef as part of the UK Government’s Foresight Project on Mental Capital.
www.neweconomics.org/projects/five-ways-well-being
Also, in April 2011 the new interactive Action for Happiness website will be launched packed full of ideas for happier living. Sign up to find out more.


Be Mindful
Do less and notice more
Mindfulness is a way of paying attention to the present moment. When we're mindful we become more aware of our thoughts and feelings and better able to manage them.
Being mindful can boost our concentration, improve our relationships and help with stress or depression. It can even have a positive effect on physical problems like chronic pain.
Anyone can learn to be mindful. It's simple, you can do it anywhere, and the results can be life-changing.

Action: Take 10
Take 10 minutes each day to do a simple mindfulness meditation.
Many of us spend much of our time focused either on the past or on the future, paying very little attention to what is happening right now.
Being mindful involves staying in the moment, spending more time noticing what's going on both inside ourselves and in our surroundings. Rather than trying to change things it involves accepting the way that things are, for better or for worse.

Be Grateful
Remember the good things
Being grateful is about much more than just saying thank you – it's about not taking things for granted and having a sense of appreciation and thankfulness for life.
People who are grateful tend to be happier, healthier and more fulfilled. Being grateful can help people cope with stress and can even have a beneficial effect on heart rate.

Action: Three Good Things
Each day write down three good things that happened. They can be anything you feel good about or grateful for.
Even on a bad day there are normally some things that we can feel good about. Taking time to be grateful is not about ignoring the bad things – it just helps us focus our attention more on the positive, rather than dwell on the negative.
To get used to the idea, start by filling in the boxes below to describe three good things that happened to you yesterday and why they were good.
Try to include why you felt each of the things was really good.
Now repeat this activity at the end of each day for a week. Use the blank boxes on the following pages to write down your Three Good Things down each day.


Good Thing 1
Example: Best night's sleep for ages so felt much more energetic !
Good Thing 2
Example: Lunch with Steve and Jane – great to see old friends again
Good Thing 3
Example: Home in time to bath the kids. We really had fun together

Action for Happiness

Three Good Things exercise
Write down three good things that happened to you today. They can be anything you feel good about or grateful for.
Use this sheet to keep a record of your Three Good Things each day over the course of a week. Try to include why you felt each of the things was really good.
Try to write down your three good things every day if possible – but if for some reason you miss a day then don't worry, just carry on the next day.
You could even talk to your family or friends about your three good things and ask them about theirs.
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Day/date:
Good Thing 1
Good Thing 2
Good Thing 3

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Day/date:
Good Thing 1
Good Thing 2
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Day/date:
Good Thing 1
Good Thing 2
Good Thing 3

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Day/date:
Good Thing 1
Good Thing 2
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Day/date:
Good Thing 1
Good Thing 2
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Good Thing 1
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Day/date:
Good Thing 1
Good Thing 2
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Be Grateful
Remember the good things
Action: Letter of Gratitude
Who are you really grateful to?
Think of three people who have been a really positive influence in your life and that you feel really grateful to.
They could be a member of your family, an old teacher, long-lost friend, colleague or someone else who has made a real difference in your life.
Person 1: Who is it and why are you grateful to them?
Person 2: Who is it and why are you grateful to them?
Person 3: Who is it and why are you grateful to them?
Now choose one of these people to write to and tell them how grateful you are; perhaps someone you've not thanked properly before.
Think about the impact this person had on you and write a letter to tell them:
• • •
What specifically are you grateful for? How did they help you? How did it help make you the person you are today?
You can write the letter any way you like – but try to be really in touch with the feeling of being grateful to them as you write.
If possible, arrange to visit the person and read the letter aloud to them. Otherwise post or email the letter to them and maybe follow up with a phone call.
Who did you write your letter of gratitude to? How did it feel?

Be Kind
Do things for others
Doing things to help others is not only good for the recipients - it has a positive payback for our happiness and health too. When people experience kindness it also makes them kinder as a result – so kindness is contagious!
As the saying goes: "if you want to feel good, do good"

Action: Daily Acts of Kindness
Perform an extra act of kindness each day.
This could be a compliment, a helping hand, a hug, a gift or something else. The act may be large or small and the recipient may not even be aware of it.
Ideally your acts of kindness should be beyond the kind things you already do on a regular basis. And of course the acts mustn't put you or others in danger!
Do at least one extra kind act each day for a week, ideally a different one each day. Here are some ideas for acts of kindness:

1. Give up your seat
2. Hold a door open for someone
3. Give a (sincere) compliment
4. Make someone laugh
5. Give someone a hug
6. Take time to really listen to someone
7. Make someone new feel welcome
8. Let one car in on every journey
9. Give directions to someone who's lost
10. Have a conversation with a stranger
11. Pick up litter as you walk
12. Let someone in front of you in the supermarket queue
13. Tell someone they mean a lot to you
14. Let someone have your parking spot
15. Read a story with a child
16. Offer your change to someone struggling to find the right amount
17. Treat a loved one to breakfast in bed
18. Buy cakes or fruit for your colleagues
19. Invite your neighbour round for a drink and a chat
20. Offer to help with someone's shopping
21. Tell someone if you notice they're doing a good job
22. Pass on a book you've enjoyed
23. Say sorry (you know who to)
24. Forgive someone for what they've done
25. Visit a sick friend, relative or neighbour
26. Buy an unexpected gift for someone
27. Bake something for a neighbour
28. Pay for someone in the queue behind
29. Do a chore that you don't normally do
30. Help out someone in need
31. Offer to look after a friend's children
32. Offer to mow your neighbour's lawn
33. Donate your old things to charity
34. Give food to a homeless person and take time to talk with them
35. Visit someone who may be lonely
36. Give blood
37. Get back in contact with someone you've lost touch with
38. Organise a fundraising event
39. Volunteer your time for a charity
40. Plan a street party

Note: Kindness benefits and exercises based on work by Lyubomirsky, S. (2007)

Acts of kindness exercise
Do at least one extra kind act each day for a week, ideally a different one each day.
Ideally your act of kindness should be something beyond the kind things you do on a regular basis.
Use this sheet to keep a record of your acts of kindness. You can also note down how you felt about doing them and whether you found them easy or difficult.

1 Day/date:
What did you do? Who for? How did it go?
2 Day/date:
What did you do? Who for? How did it go?
3 Day/date:
What did you do? Who for? How did it go?
4 Day/date:
What did you do? Who for? How did it go?
5 Day/date:
What did you do? Who for? How did it go?
6 Day/date:
What did you do? Who for? How did it go?
7 Day/date:
What did you do? Who for? How did it go?

My Action Plan
Things to try this week
Be Mindful
• Daily 10-minute Mindfulness exercise
Be Kind
• Daily Act(s) of kindness
Be Grateful
• Three Good Things each day • Letter of Gratitude
"Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions"
Dalai Lama

If you think happiness matters and want to be part of creating a happier society for everyone, then join thousands of others at www.actionforhappiness.org
Tips to get more out of the exercises
If you find any or all of these actions useful then you may want to make them part of your on-going routine. Don't worry if you find some actions work well for you and others don’t - everyone has their personal preferences. Variety is good so try different exercises on different days.

Mindfulness has most benefit when done regularly, ideally every day. But the other actions don't necessarily need to be done every day. Acts of kindness are great to make part of your normal routine, but the effects can be greater if you do a number of different kind acts all on the same day. The Three Good Things action can have a positive impact if carried out every few days or even just once a week. The Letter of Gratitude is normally a one-off activity, depending on who you want to thank – but of course you can still take time to thank the people who help you day-to-day.

Four stages of Spiritual Development

The Four Stages of Spiritual Development

According to Scott Peck , author of the best seller 'A road less travelled ' there are four stages of human spiritual development :

Stage I is chaotic, disordered, and reckless. Very young children are in Stage I. They tend to defy and disobey, and are unwilling to accept a will greater than their own. They are extremely egoistic and lack empathy for others. Many criminals are people who have never grown out of Stage I.

Stage II is the stage at which a person has blind faith in authority figures and sees the world as divided simply into good and evil, right and wrong, us and them. Once children learn to obey their parents and other authority figures, often out of fear or shame, they reach Stage II. Many so-called religious people are essentially Stage II people, in the sense that they have blind faith in God, and do not question His existence. With blind faith comes humility and a willingness to obey and serve. The majority of good, law-abiding citizens never move out of Stage II.

Stage III is the stage of scientific skepticism and questioning. A Stage III person does not accept things on faith but only accepts them if convinced logically. Many people working in scientific and technological research are in Stage III. They often reject the existence of spiritual or supernatural forces since these are difficult to measure or prove scientifically. Those who do retain their spiritual beliefs move away from the simple, official doctrines of fundamentalism.

Stage IV is the stage where an individual starts enjoying the mystery and beauty of nature and existence. While retaining skepticism, he starts perceiving grand patterns in nature and develops a deeper understanding of good and evil, forgiveness and mercy, compassion and love. His religiousness and spirituality differ significantly from that of a Stage II person, in the sense that he does not accept things through blind faith or out of fear, but does so because of genuine belief, and he does not judge people harshly or seek to inflict punishment on them for their transgressions. This is the stage of loving others as yourself, losing your attachment to your ego, and forgiving your enemies. Stage IV people are labeled as Mystics.

So where do you think you belong ???