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Monday, October 24, 2011
The Power of Paying It Forward
Contributing and Paying It Forward With The Right Intention
Can Create What Are Often Perceived As Coincidences
and In Some Cases Miracles
One day a man saw an old lady, stranded on the side of the road, but even in the dim light of day, he could see she needed help. So he pulled up in front of her Mercedes and got out. His old Pontiac was still sputtering when he approached her.
Even with the smile on his face, it was quite obvious she was worried. No one had stopped to help for the last hour or so. What was his motive? Was he going to hurt her? He didn't look safe; he looked poor and hungry.
He immediately sensed that she was frightened, standing out there in the cold. He knew how she felt. It was those chills which only fear can put in you.
He said, "I'm here to help you, ma'am. Why don't you just wait in the car where it's warm?
By the way, allow me to introduce myself... My name is Bryan Anderson. I'll have you up and running in a jiffy."
Well, all she had was a flat tire, but for an old lady, that was bad enough. As she climbed back in, Bryan crawled under the car looking for a place to put the jack, skinning his knuckles a time or two. Soon he was able to change the tire. But he had to get dirty and his hands hurt due to the bitter cold.
As he was tightening up the lug nuts, she rolled down the window and began to talk to him. She told him that she was from St. Louis and was only just passing through. She couldn't thank him enough for coming to her aid.
Bryan just smiled as he closed her trunk. The lady asked how much she owed him. Any amount would have been all right with her. She already imagined all the awful things that could have happened had he not stopped.
Bryan never thought twice about being paid. This random act of kindness wasn't a job to him. This was nothing more or less than helping someone in need, and God knows there were plenty, who had given him a hand in the past. He had lived his whole life that way, and it never occurred to him to act any other way.
He told her that if she really wanted to pay him back, the next time she saw someone who needed help, she could give that person the assistance they needed, and Bryan added, 'And think of me.'
He waited until she started her car and drove off. It had been a cold and depressing day, but he felt good as he headed for home, disappearing into the twilight.
A few miles down the road the lady saw a small cafe. She went in to grab a bite to eat, and take the chill off before she made the last leg of her trip home.
It was a dingy looking restaurant. Outside were two old gas pumps. The whole scene was unfamiliar to her. The waitress came over and brought a clean towel to wipe her wet hair. She had a sweet smile, one that even being on her feet for the whole day couldn't erase. The lady noticed the waitress was nearly eight months pregnant, but she never let the strain and aches change her positive and upbeat attitude. The old lady wondered how someone who had so little could be so giving to a stranger.
Then she remembered Bryan Anderson...
After the lady finished her meal, she paid with a hundred dollar bill. The waitress quickly went to get change for her hundred dollar bill, but the old lady had slipped right out the door. She was gone by the time the waitress came back. The waitress wondered where the lady could be. Then she noticed something written on the napkin.
There were tears in her eyes when she read what the lady wrote: 'You don't owe me anything. I have been there too. Somebody once helped me out, the way I'm helping you. If you really want to pay me back, here is what you do: Do not let this chain of love end with you.'
Under the napkin were four more $100 bills.
Well, there were still tables to clear, sugar bowls to fill, and people to serve, but the waitress made it through another day.
That night when she got home from work and climbed into bed, she was thinking about the Money and what the lady had written. How could the lady have known how much she and her husband needed it? With the baby due next month and money being in short supply it was going to be hard...
She knew how worried her husband had been recently, and as he lay sleeping next to her, she gave him a soft kiss and whispered soft and low, 'Everything's going to be all right. I love you so much, Bryan Anderson.'
There is an old saying 'What goes around comes around.' That's much more "true and powerful" than most understand. Today I chose to pay it forward and share this story with you but I'll ask that if it "feels right" that you pass it on too.
Let this light shine...God or whatever the Source of your understanding might be often works in mysterious ways and sometimes puts people in our lives whether it be for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
We can never know which it is for sure but one thing we can know is that it always serves a greater purpose. One that can and always does benefit all those involved.
When it doesn't "seem" that way, it's simply a matter of looking below the surface with an open mind and heart, enabling us to "see" for ourselves just how real and true that is. And it ALWAYS is.
Sometimes we just have to look a little harder than other times.
Can Create What Are Often Perceived As Coincidences
and In Some Cases Miracles
One day a man saw an old lady, stranded on the side of the road, but even in the dim light of day, he could see she needed help. So he pulled up in front of her Mercedes and got out. His old Pontiac was still sputtering when he approached her.
Even with the smile on his face, it was quite obvious she was worried. No one had stopped to help for the last hour or so. What was his motive? Was he going to hurt her? He didn't look safe; he looked poor and hungry.
He immediately sensed that she was frightened, standing out there in the cold. He knew how she felt. It was those chills which only fear can put in you.
He said, "I'm here to help you, ma'am. Why don't you just wait in the car where it's warm?
By the way, allow me to introduce myself... My name is Bryan Anderson. I'll have you up and running in a jiffy."
Well, all she had was a flat tire, but for an old lady, that was bad enough. As she climbed back in, Bryan crawled under the car looking for a place to put the jack, skinning his knuckles a time or two. Soon he was able to change the tire. But he had to get dirty and his hands hurt due to the bitter cold.
As he was tightening up the lug nuts, she rolled down the window and began to talk to him. She told him that she was from St. Louis and was only just passing through. She couldn't thank him enough for coming to her aid.
Bryan just smiled as he closed her trunk. The lady asked how much she owed him. Any amount would have been all right with her. She already imagined all the awful things that could have happened had he not stopped.
Bryan never thought twice about being paid. This random act of kindness wasn't a job to him. This was nothing more or less than helping someone in need, and God knows there were plenty, who had given him a hand in the past. He had lived his whole life that way, and it never occurred to him to act any other way.
He told her that if she really wanted to pay him back, the next time she saw someone who needed help, she could give that person the assistance they needed, and Bryan added, 'And think of me.'
He waited until she started her car and drove off. It had been a cold and depressing day, but he felt good as he headed for home, disappearing into the twilight.
A few miles down the road the lady saw a small cafe. She went in to grab a bite to eat, and take the chill off before she made the last leg of her trip home.
It was a dingy looking restaurant. Outside were two old gas pumps. The whole scene was unfamiliar to her. The waitress came over and brought a clean towel to wipe her wet hair. She had a sweet smile, one that even being on her feet for the whole day couldn't erase. The lady noticed the waitress was nearly eight months pregnant, but she never let the strain and aches change her positive and upbeat attitude. The old lady wondered how someone who had so little could be so giving to a stranger.
Then she remembered Bryan Anderson...
After the lady finished her meal, she paid with a hundred dollar bill. The waitress quickly went to get change for her hundred dollar bill, but the old lady had slipped right out the door. She was gone by the time the waitress came back. The waitress wondered where the lady could be. Then she noticed something written on the napkin.
There were tears in her eyes when she read what the lady wrote: 'You don't owe me anything. I have been there too. Somebody once helped me out, the way I'm helping you. If you really want to pay me back, here is what you do: Do not let this chain of love end with you.'
Under the napkin were four more $100 bills.
Well, there were still tables to clear, sugar bowls to fill, and people to serve, but the waitress made it through another day.
That night when she got home from work and climbed into bed, she was thinking about the Money and what the lady had written. How could the lady have known how much she and her husband needed it? With the baby due next month and money being in short supply it was going to be hard...
She knew how worried her husband had been recently, and as he lay sleeping next to her, she gave him a soft kiss and whispered soft and low, 'Everything's going to be all right. I love you so much, Bryan Anderson.'
There is an old saying 'What goes around comes around.' That's much more "true and powerful" than most understand. Today I chose to pay it forward and share this story with you but I'll ask that if it "feels right" that you pass it on too.
Let this light shine...God or whatever the Source of your understanding might be often works in mysterious ways and sometimes puts people in our lives whether it be for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
We can never know which it is for sure but one thing we can know is that it always serves a greater purpose. One that can and always does benefit all those involved.
When it doesn't "seem" that way, it's simply a matter of looking below the surface with an open mind and heart, enabling us to "see" for ourselves just how real and true that is. And it ALWAYS is.
Sometimes we just have to look a little harder than other times.
The Secret of Doing Without Doing by Dr. Robert Anthony
I recently got access to Dr. Robert Anthony's program " The Secret of deliberate creation" Am still going through with it and will post my comments and my experience later. In the meantime I found this article on line and thought it made a good read.
The Secret of doing without Doing
One of the mistaken certainties or misconceptions most people operate under is that you get what you want in life by what you DO, or through the actions you take. Most people believe that the DOING or action part is what makes things happen. However, this causes you to create in reverse.
Let me explain. The reason we put a lot of emphasis on action is because we do not understand the power of our thought. If you analyze it, 90% of most people's actions are spent trying to compensate for inappropriate thought. The Chinese philosopher Lao-tsu said that, "In the practice of the Way, every day something is dropped. Less and less do you need to force things until finally you arrive at *non action* When nothing is done, nothing is left undone".
What he is talking about is *doing without doing* The problem is that most of us are preoccupied with "doing". Unfortunately most of our doing usually involves struggle. In the western world we are conditioned to be action-oriented, so we place a tremendous value on doing. We are so busy doing that we do not realize that all this "doingness" causes us to create in a reverse fashion. Most of our actions are out of fear, worry or doubt because we believe nothing will get done unless we DO something. In other words, we are trying to force our desire into manifestation through action. If your decision to DO is dominant, then you will not focus on what you want to BE in the present moment. This causes you to miscreate because BEING is the first and most important step in the creative process.
Here is the secret. It is not your action that makes things happen, it is your intent. You can reduce the need for action to a very minimum by allowing yourself to focus on what you desire until you feel the positive energy begin to move within you. This energy is not based on doubt, fear, anxiety, worry or need. If you focus on what you want instead of what you don't want, you will know when it is time to take action. And when you do, it will be effortless. Doors open and the entire universe will conspire to assist you in your desire.
Put simply, you should take no action on anything until you have visualized your desire and made it real enough in your mind that your next action (step), whatever it is, seems like the most logical step. How can you know the next logical step? Here is the test that you can give to yourself before taking any action. If you focus on what you desire and still feel overwhelmed or anxious, then you are not ready for any action. You know you are ready when it feels like the next logical step is effortless. There is no effort, no strain, and no pain. What we want to do is to use the leverage of energy, the same leverage of energy that creates everything in the universe.
However, we are so caught up in the reality of WHAT IS, that we feel we must create everything through mental effort and physical activity. Have you ever seen people who seem to have all the wonderful things in their life without much effort? It almost seems like they have an advantage over everyone else. Then you see the people who work the hardest usually have the least. That doesn't seem fair does it? But that's the way the universe works.
Unfortunately, those who work the hardest usually have the least because they haven't learned the leverage of aligning their energy. They are going about creating their lives the hard way. They are trying to use their actions to create what they want. We have also been programmed that in order to have what we desire we must work hard. How many times have you heard - "No pain, no gain." The implication is that if you want to make something of yourself, you must work hard. The message is clear - if you are not hurting or struggling, you are not moving forward.
But here is the truth - anytime you are struggling you are miscreating. Anytime you feel pain or struggle, your magnetic point of attraction is directed to that which you do not want, rather than to that which you desire. Read it again! Actions are necessary, but they are the last component of the creation processes. Actions cannot be used effectively to initiate results, because initiation is the function of BEING, then thought, then action.
Remember, the creation of anything is through your vibration. Everything vibrates, and it is by that vibration that we harmonize and attract experiences to ourselves. So before you act or do anything, first ask yourself, how am I vibrating? How do you tell? You tell by how you FEEL. Your feelings show you your vibration. How you feel determines what you attract. When you use the process of creating by only focusing on what you want instead of what you don't want, you will see that the universe will provide a different set of circumstances for you that requires much less action. This puts you in a state of "doing without doing" or action without effort.
Copyright © 2004 Dr. Robert Anthony. All Rights Reserved.
Dr. Robert Anthony is an internationally reknowned expert in human potential. He teaches you how to manifest what you desire through the power of your mind. He offers the dynamic "Know How To Be Rich" training course, revealing how you can quickly & easily manifest manifest wealth, life purpose and happiness. You can read a free special report by Dr. Anthony at: http://tinyurl.com/2w3np
The Secret of doing without Doing
One of the mistaken certainties or misconceptions most people operate under is that you get what you want in life by what you DO, or through the actions you take. Most people believe that the DOING or action part is what makes things happen. However, this causes you to create in reverse.
Let me explain. The reason we put a lot of emphasis on action is because we do not understand the power of our thought. If you analyze it, 90% of most people's actions are spent trying to compensate for inappropriate thought. The Chinese philosopher Lao-tsu said that, "In the practice of the Way, every day something is dropped. Less and less do you need to force things until finally you arrive at *non action* When nothing is done, nothing is left undone".
What he is talking about is *doing without doing* The problem is that most of us are preoccupied with "doing". Unfortunately most of our doing usually involves struggle. In the western world we are conditioned to be action-oriented, so we place a tremendous value on doing. We are so busy doing that we do not realize that all this "doingness" causes us to create in a reverse fashion. Most of our actions are out of fear, worry or doubt because we believe nothing will get done unless we DO something. In other words, we are trying to force our desire into manifestation through action. If your decision to DO is dominant, then you will not focus on what you want to BE in the present moment. This causes you to miscreate because BEING is the first and most important step in the creative process.
Here is the secret. It is not your action that makes things happen, it is your intent. You can reduce the need for action to a very minimum by allowing yourself to focus on what you desire until you feel the positive energy begin to move within you. This energy is not based on doubt, fear, anxiety, worry or need. If you focus on what you want instead of what you don't want, you will know when it is time to take action. And when you do, it will be effortless. Doors open and the entire universe will conspire to assist you in your desire.
Put simply, you should take no action on anything until you have visualized your desire and made it real enough in your mind that your next action (step), whatever it is, seems like the most logical step. How can you know the next logical step? Here is the test that you can give to yourself before taking any action. If you focus on what you desire and still feel overwhelmed or anxious, then you are not ready for any action. You know you are ready when it feels like the next logical step is effortless. There is no effort, no strain, and no pain. What we want to do is to use the leverage of energy, the same leverage of energy that creates everything in the universe.
However, we are so caught up in the reality of WHAT IS, that we feel we must create everything through mental effort and physical activity. Have you ever seen people who seem to have all the wonderful things in their life without much effort? It almost seems like they have an advantage over everyone else. Then you see the people who work the hardest usually have the least. That doesn't seem fair does it? But that's the way the universe works.
Unfortunately, those who work the hardest usually have the least because they haven't learned the leverage of aligning their energy. They are going about creating their lives the hard way. They are trying to use their actions to create what they want. We have also been programmed that in order to have what we desire we must work hard. How many times have you heard - "No pain, no gain." The implication is that if you want to make something of yourself, you must work hard. The message is clear - if you are not hurting or struggling, you are not moving forward.
But here is the truth - anytime you are struggling you are miscreating. Anytime you feel pain or struggle, your magnetic point of attraction is directed to that which you do not want, rather than to that which you desire. Read it again! Actions are necessary, but they are the last component of the creation processes. Actions cannot be used effectively to initiate results, because initiation is the function of BEING, then thought, then action.
Remember, the creation of anything is through your vibration. Everything vibrates, and it is by that vibration that we harmonize and attract experiences to ourselves. So before you act or do anything, first ask yourself, how am I vibrating? How do you tell? You tell by how you FEEL. Your feelings show you your vibration. How you feel determines what you attract. When you use the process of creating by only focusing on what you want instead of what you don't want, you will see that the universe will provide a different set of circumstances for you that requires much less action. This puts you in a state of "doing without doing" or action without effort.
Copyright © 2004 Dr. Robert Anthony. All Rights Reserved.
Dr. Robert Anthony is an internationally reknowned expert in human potential. He teaches you how to manifest what you desire through the power of your mind. He offers the dynamic "Know How To Be Rich" training course, revealing how you can quickly & easily manifest manifest wealth, life purpose and happiness. You can read a free special report by Dr. Anthony at: http://tinyurl.com/2w3np
Sunday, July 24, 2011
Bathroom Meditation
According to Wikipedia, Meditation is a mental discipline by which one attempts to get beyond the conditioned, "thinking" mind into a deeper state of relaxation or awareness.
It has been defined as: "self regulation of attention, in the service of self-inquiry, in the here and now."
When you Google meditation, 118 million results show up. It just goes to show that it must be something people are interested in. I decided to do my own research and read all that I could. But reading is not doing. No amount of reading would have given me the taste of real experience.
So I decided to go for the real thing. I enrolled myself into a 10 day silent retreat where all I was allowed to do was sit cross legged 10 hours a day for 10 days and not speak a word. Suffice to say it was an experience I will never forget.
Although the first six days were a tough ordeal, by the seventh day I had started to experience some benefits of the catharsis that I was going through. The physical silence had finally started to calm the mind, but not before I’d had my share of tears and hysteria in the solitude and silence of my room.
By the 10th day I was relieved that that I had survived and elated that I had an experience no amount of reading could have offered.
Having taken the first step towards self realization I promised myself that I would continue with the practice. Like someone in the throes of young love I was all excited at having found a way to salvation. My passion and my excitement stayed with me precisely for 5 days. 6th day back at home in the real world I slipped back into the so called normalcy of life and couldn’t even spare 20 minutes for something that was supposed to elevate me towards Buddha hood.
The conventional understanding of meditation is sitting cross legged with your eyes shut trying to focus and calm the mind that refuses to be tamed. Most people shy away from meditation because instead of calming the mind it may lead to stress due to the inability to quiet the mind. In fact the moment one sits for meditation, the ‘monkey mind’ starts to run in every possible direction. My mind was no different. The moment I would sit down to meditate; all sorts of thoughts would start popping up. Things that were never on my conscious mind would suddenly start to take over. I would go into a whirl pool of thoughts and eventually get so frustrated and angry that I just gave up.
Until I devised a plan that worked for me!
I had to find a way to calm my mind and stay connected to the source. Necessity is after all the mother of invention.
I invented my own way of meditation and it may not be what the sages ordered but it sure gets me my 20 minutes of .... “self regulation of attention, in the service of self-inquiry, in the here and now."
The bathroom meditation is something I feel we all can do. This is pretty much the only time we can shut ourselves out from the outside world.
Let’s break up our bathroom regime into chunks of activities. Starting with brushing the teeth. While brushing just focus completely on the movement of the brush, the taste of the toothpaste, the smell and the froth of the toothpaste. While rinsing, pay complete attention to the water in your mouth and to the swirling motion. Now the best part. Look at yourself in the mirror and say something complimentary to yourself.
Let’s skip the ablution part and move straight to the bath. Run your bath and if possible add some aroma oils, then step into the bath and now pay attention to each and every body part. You could say something nice to each part, starting from your feet move upwards thanking each part in the way it supports you. Say thank you to the feet for allowing you to walk, the legs to carry you, the hands for helping you write, eat etc. You can even go further and thank your internal organs.
I understand for most of us it is a race against time in the morning and we really don’t have the luxury of a bath. Even a three minute shower is enough. The key is in being aware of ourselves and taking this opportunity when we are alone with our thoughts to appreciate and thank our body for all it does.
Many of us use the time in the bathroom for contemplation and planning our day ahead. But we have the whole day ahead of us to do that, so please use this time as ME time where everything else should not be important. The only thing you are going to focus on is you and be grateful for being you.
Next step- out of the bath/shower and wipe yourself dry. Again use this time to appreciate and thank your body ...if possible each part as you wipe it dry. For most women and the few men who indulge in oils or creams..take this opportunity to repeat the exercise gain.
Finally face the mirror one more time and compliment yourself again and wish yourself a wonderful day.
It sounds extremely narcissistic and it probably is, but why would you expect others to be nice to you if you yourself can’t be nice to yourself?
You must be wondering, how is all this even remotely close to meditation. Well it is not meditation in the conventional sense, but when our focus is one pointed and we are full of gratitude our mind learns to relax. If you continue this exercise for a minimum of 30 days you will begin to notice a change in your attitude and will feel much calmer and relaxed. The key is to do this continuously for 30 days. If you forget even one day...you got to start all over again. It’s kind of antibiotic for the mind. If you start the course, you better complete it to get the full benefit.
After 30 days of the bathroom meditation, you can now move on to the more advanced meditation.
In the next few days I will share some other not –so- conventional ways of finding peace and happiness.
So get moving and use your bathroom time as your me time to get in touch with the inner you. )
Happy Self appreciating…
It has been defined as: "self regulation of attention, in the service of self-inquiry, in the here and now."
When you Google meditation, 118 million results show up. It just goes to show that it must be something people are interested in. I decided to do my own research and read all that I could. But reading is not doing. No amount of reading would have given me the taste of real experience.
So I decided to go for the real thing. I enrolled myself into a 10 day silent retreat where all I was allowed to do was sit cross legged 10 hours a day for 10 days and not speak a word. Suffice to say it was an experience I will never forget.
Although the first six days were a tough ordeal, by the seventh day I had started to experience some benefits of the catharsis that I was going through. The physical silence had finally started to calm the mind, but not before I’d had my share of tears and hysteria in the solitude and silence of my room.
By the 10th day I was relieved that that I had survived and elated that I had an experience no amount of reading could have offered.
Having taken the first step towards self realization I promised myself that I would continue with the practice. Like someone in the throes of young love I was all excited at having found a way to salvation. My passion and my excitement stayed with me precisely for 5 days. 6th day back at home in the real world I slipped back into the so called normalcy of life and couldn’t even spare 20 minutes for something that was supposed to elevate me towards Buddha hood.
The conventional understanding of meditation is sitting cross legged with your eyes shut trying to focus and calm the mind that refuses to be tamed. Most people shy away from meditation because instead of calming the mind it may lead to stress due to the inability to quiet the mind. In fact the moment one sits for meditation, the ‘monkey mind’ starts to run in every possible direction. My mind was no different. The moment I would sit down to meditate; all sorts of thoughts would start popping up. Things that were never on my conscious mind would suddenly start to take over. I would go into a whirl pool of thoughts and eventually get so frustrated and angry that I just gave up.
Until I devised a plan that worked for me!
I had to find a way to calm my mind and stay connected to the source. Necessity is after all the mother of invention.
I invented my own way of meditation and it may not be what the sages ordered but it sure gets me my 20 minutes of .... “self regulation of attention, in the service of self-inquiry, in the here and now."
The bathroom meditation is something I feel we all can do. This is pretty much the only time we can shut ourselves out from the outside world.
Let’s break up our bathroom regime into chunks of activities. Starting with brushing the teeth. While brushing just focus completely on the movement of the brush, the taste of the toothpaste, the smell and the froth of the toothpaste. While rinsing, pay complete attention to the water in your mouth and to the swirling motion. Now the best part. Look at yourself in the mirror and say something complimentary to yourself.
Let’s skip the ablution part and move straight to the bath. Run your bath and if possible add some aroma oils, then step into the bath and now pay attention to each and every body part. You could say something nice to each part, starting from your feet move upwards thanking each part in the way it supports you. Say thank you to the feet for allowing you to walk, the legs to carry you, the hands for helping you write, eat etc. You can even go further and thank your internal organs.
I understand for most of us it is a race against time in the morning and we really don’t have the luxury of a bath. Even a three minute shower is enough. The key is in being aware of ourselves and taking this opportunity when we are alone with our thoughts to appreciate and thank our body for all it does.
Many of us use the time in the bathroom for contemplation and planning our day ahead. But we have the whole day ahead of us to do that, so please use this time as ME time where everything else should not be important. The only thing you are going to focus on is you and be grateful for being you.
Next step- out of the bath/shower and wipe yourself dry. Again use this time to appreciate and thank your body ...if possible each part as you wipe it dry. For most women and the few men who indulge in oils or creams..take this opportunity to repeat the exercise gain.
Finally face the mirror one more time and compliment yourself again and wish yourself a wonderful day.
It sounds extremely narcissistic and it probably is, but why would you expect others to be nice to you if you yourself can’t be nice to yourself?
You must be wondering, how is all this even remotely close to meditation. Well it is not meditation in the conventional sense, but when our focus is one pointed and we are full of gratitude our mind learns to relax. If you continue this exercise for a minimum of 30 days you will begin to notice a change in your attitude and will feel much calmer and relaxed. The key is to do this continuously for 30 days. If you forget even one day...you got to start all over again. It’s kind of antibiotic for the mind. If you start the course, you better complete it to get the full benefit.
After 30 days of the bathroom meditation, you can now move on to the more advanced meditation.
In the next few days I will share some other not –so- conventional ways of finding peace and happiness.
So get moving and use your bathroom time as your me time to get in touch with the inner you. )
Happy Self appreciating…
Thursday, May 12, 2011
The bright side of falling sick!!!!!
A week ago, I was almost dying…or at least that is what I
thought and I wrote about how I had been unable to practice mind control to
heal myself. The wonderful messages and
the healing energy sent by all you wonderful people made a whale of difference.
Although am still house bound, I definitely feel better. Thank you everyone for
the wonderful messages and love. Much appreciated.
As a thank you I have a great strategy for happiness
that I discovered during my convalescence.
Before I go ahead, let me share with you a few good things
about falling ill. During the height of my illness I was really cursing the way
I was feeling and could not wait to get better. However in hindsight, I wish I
had not done that and just accepted my illness and thanked my body for forcing
me to take a break.
Body has an amazing self-regulating mechanism and when
pushed too far will give us signals to slow down. The signals will be mild in
the beginning like a headache or body ache, inability to sleep or a short bout
of flu. If we take the hint and take some rest we will be back in action in a
few days, but if we ignore the subtle signs then the body will give us a
slightly stronger nudge and this time we may be out of action for more than just
a few days. My body had tried to tell me in more ways than one, but did I pay
attention? Of course not! And when it really could not take it anymore it gave
me a royal kick up my back side and forced me to stay in bed. To make matters even
more interesting, I could not even speak because of the bronchitis and the
incessant coughing. It really was time for quiet contemplation.
Along with contemplation came lots of reading and lots of
movies. I don’t remember the last time I sat in front of the TV this much. And
the best part of it all, a lot of TLC from the family. Inara made special
drinks ( I can’t say they were all very palatable, but the love and concern
made up way more than the taste) and Rahul and my helper gave amazing massages and back rubs :-) . So it was good to be cared for.
Ok, so let me get to the point where I will share with you the secret of happiness.
I read amazing stuff by a guy called Neil Slade. Have ordered all his books now, but this was on his website. www.neilslade.com
According to him, you can increase your happiness a thousand times over just by popping your frontals!
What does that mean? Basically what he is saying is you can
multiply your happiness levels thousand, ten-thousand or million times over
just by clicking your amygdala forward.
Did I lose you here? What language am I speaking? Frontals,
Amygdala, popping and clicking !!. It all sounds very strange but it is real
fun.
All you need to do is close your eyes and put your thumbs in
your ears, put your middle finger on your eye and bring your index finger in
line with your eye just above the ear. You have just located your amygdala.
The
Amygdala is an almond shaped mass of nuclei located deep within the temporal lobe of the brain
. It is involved in many of our emotions and motivations, particularly those that are related to
survival. The amygdala is involved in the processing of emotions such as fear,
anger and pleasure.
It also acts as a switch between the reptilian brain, the mammalian brain and the most advanced part of
our brain, the frontal lobes.
According to Neil Slade, if we click the amygdala forward we will have immediate feelings of peace,
happiness, pleasure etc.
So what you need to do is do some visualization, because visualization is a frontal lobe activity.
Now that you have located your amygdale, imagine a feather coming through your forehead and tickling the two amygdale.
Just by visualizing this you will have clicked forward your amygdala and will surely feel pleasure.
No harm trying it, I did but am not so sure if I suddenly managed to increase my happiness a thousand
times over.
I definitely had a good laugh when I told Inara about it and both she and I visualized clicking forward
our amygdalas!!! And according to Slade, laughter is a front lobe exercise so it is already a plus in the brain department.
Every time you are in fear or fight mode you are in your reptilian brain and your creativity, intelligence and ability to enjoy are almost negligible, and when you are having fun either in real time or visualizing and reliving happy times your frontal lobes are active and you will feel happier, more creative and more intelligent.
I read hundreds of pages on the brain and the amygdala, but won’t bore you with it. Suffice to say that
knowing how to use the brain is way more important than just the size of the brain. ( Size does matter).
So before going to bed , do this short visualization exercise. Try and remember your happiest memory.
Visualise it in great detail, give it colour, smell, taste, touch, what ever you can remember. Stay with it for a while.
Now you have activated your frontal lobes.
To add to that pleasure, now do the feather tickling amygdala exercise. It is supposed to be the best
feeling you will ever experience.
And if you do please share it with me so that I can copyright it. :-))))))))))))))
thought and I wrote about how I had been unable to practice mind control to
heal myself. The wonderful messages and
the healing energy sent by all you wonderful people made a whale of difference.
Although am still house bound, I definitely feel better. Thank you everyone for
the wonderful messages and love. Much appreciated.
As a thank you I have a great strategy for happiness
that I discovered during my convalescence.
Before I go ahead, let me share with you a few good things
about falling ill. During the height of my illness I was really cursing the way
I was feeling and could not wait to get better. However in hindsight, I wish I
had not done that and just accepted my illness and thanked my body for forcing
me to take a break.
Body has an amazing self-regulating mechanism and when
pushed too far will give us signals to slow down. The signals will be mild in
the beginning like a headache or body ache, inability to sleep or a short bout
of flu. If we take the hint and take some rest we will be back in action in a
few days, but if we ignore the subtle signs then the body will give us a
slightly stronger nudge and this time we may be out of action for more than just
a few days. My body had tried to tell me in more ways than one, but did I pay
attention? Of course not! And when it really could not take it anymore it gave
me a royal kick up my back side and forced me to stay in bed. To make matters even
more interesting, I could not even speak because of the bronchitis and the
incessant coughing. It really was time for quiet contemplation.
Along with contemplation came lots of reading and lots of
movies. I don’t remember the last time I sat in front of the TV this much. And
the best part of it all, a lot of TLC from the family. Inara made special
drinks ( I can’t say they were all very palatable, but the love and concern
made up way more than the taste) and Rahul and my helper gave amazing massages and back rubs :-) . So it was good to be cared for.
Ok, so let me get to the point where I will share with you the secret of happiness.
I read amazing stuff by a guy called Neil Slade. Have ordered all his books now, but this was on his website. www.neilslade.com
According to him, you can increase your happiness a thousand times over just by popping your frontals!
What does that mean? Basically what he is saying is you can
multiply your happiness levels thousand, ten-thousand or million times over
just by clicking your amygdala forward.
Did I lose you here? What language am I speaking? Frontals,
Amygdala, popping and clicking !!. It all sounds very strange but it is real
fun.
All you need to do is close your eyes and put your thumbs in
your ears, put your middle finger on your eye and bring your index finger in
line with your eye just above the ear. You have just located your amygdala.
The
Amygdala is an almond shaped mass of nuclei located deep within the temporal lobe of the brain
. It is involved in many of our emotions and motivations, particularly those that are related to
survival. The amygdala is involved in the processing of emotions such as fear,
anger and pleasure.
It also acts as a switch between the reptilian brain, the mammalian brain and the most advanced part of
our brain, the frontal lobes.
According to Neil Slade, if we click the amygdala forward we will have immediate feelings of peace,
happiness, pleasure etc.
So what you need to do is do some visualization, because visualization is a frontal lobe activity.
Now that you have located your amygdale, imagine a feather coming through your forehead and tickling the two amygdale.
Just by visualizing this you will have clicked forward your amygdala and will surely feel pleasure.
No harm trying it, I did but am not so sure if I suddenly managed to increase my happiness a thousand
times over.
I definitely had a good laugh when I told Inara about it and both she and I visualized clicking forward
our amygdalas!!! And according to Slade, laughter is a front lobe exercise so it is already a plus in the brain department.
Every time you are in fear or fight mode you are in your reptilian brain and your creativity, intelligence and ability to enjoy are almost negligible, and when you are having fun either in real time or visualizing and reliving happy times your frontal lobes are active and you will feel happier, more creative and more intelligent.
I read hundreds of pages on the brain and the amygdala, but won’t bore you with it. Suffice to say that
knowing how to use the brain is way more important than just the size of the brain. ( Size does matter).
So before going to bed , do this short visualization exercise. Try and remember your happiest memory.
Visualise it in great detail, give it colour, smell, taste, touch, what ever you can remember. Stay with it for a while.
Now you have activated your frontal lobes.
To add to that pleasure, now do the feather tickling amygdala exercise. It is supposed to be the best
feeling you will ever experience.
And if you do please share it with me so that I can copyright it. :-))))))))))))))
Sunday, May 8, 2011
All is well..... or is it???
It’s very easy to preach others but when it’s time to practice, its bloody hard. I have always prided myself on walking my walk and talking my talk, at times have had to pay a heavy price, but today on the 11th day of my rather painful physical situation I am very disillusioned by what I preach.
I am a huge proponent of mind over matter and believe a lot in energy healing and have often taken credit for healing others. Mainly my 9 year old daughter who has complete faith in me and even though at times she does not feel any difference tells me she does. She has been extremely troubled by my bronchitis symptoms and gets extremely upset when I cough as if my life force is being drawn out. I must admit it has been a few rather unpleasant days.
So how come all my self-help techniques and energy healing a self-motivational talks are not working on me? Why am I still feeling like death?
After waiting 8 days and hoping and praying that the flu like symptoms would automatically subside, I eventually gave in to family pressure and went and saw a doctor, who immediately put me on a nebulizer and antibiotics and three different kinds of cough mixtures. This was three days ago and I am still feeling like crap. I cannot speak a full sentence without coughing my lungs out and I go into spasms trying to breathe. It sure is not fun.
Why am I sharing all this? Why am I so confused about what I have been studying, practicing and preaching?
Most of my friends look towards me for advice on issues that plague us from time to time. These could be emotional or physical and yours truly always has some sort of idea/solution.
Today however, I am unable to follow my own advice. I am crying and cursing the state I am in and cannot understand how or why I brought this upon myself?
According to Louise Hay’s book- “You can Heal your life” every physical ailment has an emotional bias to it. So let’s see what is bronchitis all about? According to the book, probable cause of Bronchitis is inflamed family environment. Arguments and yelling and sometimes silent disagreements.
Hmm… now that’s a tough one to accept. So in some morbid way, I have brought this upon myself by arguing with my husband on something as innocuous as going to the doctor. I and my ego were so convinced that I could heal myself by positively affirming that I was Ok, that I argued with my husband at the very mention of the word doctor. His sarcasm and frustration of course did not help the situation. The more he would insist on my going to the doctor, the more I would resist.
No wonder I am in such an inflamed situation, both physically and mentally.
My ego got the better of me and I suffered and am still suffering much more than I needed to. If only I had agreed to see the doctor on time and not decided to self-medicate and practice self-healing, I may not be suffering so much.
Have I learnt my lesson? May be may be not? Ego does not give up that easily. It has to make its presence felt and always be right.
This time however it did not serve me. In fact it rarely does. It is what gets us into trouble most of the time, but to say that we have to give up the ego is like saying you have to stop being you. Our whole identity system is based on our ego. If we let go of our ego who are we? What is our personality? We may as well be a wall flower….
I am conflicted and I am confused.
My belief system is being shattered and my ego is preventing me from accepting that I could be wrong. For a change I should have heeded my husband’s advice and seen a doctor sooner, but I didn’t and I am paying the price.
My mind did not overcome matter and maybe not all things can be solved by mind over matter. Maybe we need to be a bit more discerning about what we preach and what we follow.
Now that I am publicly acknowledging that I was wrong and my husband was right, maybe I just might heal.
According to Louise Hay, I need to declare peace and harmony within me and around me and say “ALL Is WELL”.
ALL IS WELL ……….
I am a huge proponent of mind over matter and believe a lot in energy healing and have often taken credit for healing others. Mainly my 9 year old daughter who has complete faith in me and even though at times she does not feel any difference tells me she does. She has been extremely troubled by my bronchitis symptoms and gets extremely upset when I cough as if my life force is being drawn out. I must admit it has been a few rather unpleasant days.
So how come all my self-help techniques and energy healing a self-motivational talks are not working on me? Why am I still feeling like death?
After waiting 8 days and hoping and praying that the flu like symptoms would automatically subside, I eventually gave in to family pressure and went and saw a doctor, who immediately put me on a nebulizer and antibiotics and three different kinds of cough mixtures. This was three days ago and I am still feeling like crap. I cannot speak a full sentence without coughing my lungs out and I go into spasms trying to breathe. It sure is not fun.
Why am I sharing all this? Why am I so confused about what I have been studying, practicing and preaching?
Most of my friends look towards me for advice on issues that plague us from time to time. These could be emotional or physical and yours truly always has some sort of idea/solution.
Today however, I am unable to follow my own advice. I am crying and cursing the state I am in and cannot understand how or why I brought this upon myself?
According to Louise Hay’s book- “You can Heal your life” every physical ailment has an emotional bias to it. So let’s see what is bronchitis all about? According to the book, probable cause of Bronchitis is inflamed family environment. Arguments and yelling and sometimes silent disagreements.
Hmm… now that’s a tough one to accept. So in some morbid way, I have brought this upon myself by arguing with my husband on something as innocuous as going to the doctor. I and my ego were so convinced that I could heal myself by positively affirming that I was Ok, that I argued with my husband at the very mention of the word doctor. His sarcasm and frustration of course did not help the situation. The more he would insist on my going to the doctor, the more I would resist.
No wonder I am in such an inflamed situation, both physically and mentally.
My ego got the better of me and I suffered and am still suffering much more than I needed to. If only I had agreed to see the doctor on time and not decided to self-medicate and practice self-healing, I may not be suffering so much.
Have I learnt my lesson? May be may be not? Ego does not give up that easily. It has to make its presence felt and always be right.
This time however it did not serve me. In fact it rarely does. It is what gets us into trouble most of the time, but to say that we have to give up the ego is like saying you have to stop being you. Our whole identity system is based on our ego. If we let go of our ego who are we? What is our personality? We may as well be a wall flower….
I am conflicted and I am confused.
My belief system is being shattered and my ego is preventing me from accepting that I could be wrong. For a change I should have heeded my husband’s advice and seen a doctor sooner, but I didn’t and I am paying the price.
My mind did not overcome matter and maybe not all things can be solved by mind over matter. Maybe we need to be a bit more discerning about what we preach and what we follow.
Now that I am publicly acknowledging that I was wrong and my husband was right, maybe I just might heal.
According to Louise Hay, I need to declare peace and harmony within me and around me and say “ALL Is WELL”.
ALL IS WELL ……….
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Wednesday, April 6, 2011
Do You Make These "Law of Attraction" Blunders? - By Bob Doyle
Learning about the "law of attraction" can be one of the grandest blessings you can receive in your life. When you learn the true "cause" of your experience of reality, and that you can actually ALTER that reality in any way that you wish, it opens a door of Infinite Possibility!
After all, imagine that any level of wealth can be yours! Your life can be enriched with the most fulfilling relationships imaginable! You can spend your time doing only those things you love, and in return, experience abundance that seems impossible from the outside looking in!
However, too many people learn only the "basics" of the Law of Attraction, and as a result make 5 common mistakes that make it appear as though this universal law does not apply to them, and in fact gives them results completely OPPOSITE of what they desire.
Before going into these mistakes, let's review what the Law of Attraction actually is. It's deceptively simple: Energy attracts Like Energy.
Broken down a little more, this means that everything in this Universe (physical and non-physical) IS Energy that vibrates at various frequencies. And it is the nature of the vibrations of this Energy to "attract" themselves to vibrations of a similar frequency. In other words, one "cluster" of Energy attracts itself to other "clusters" of Energy in which it is in vibrational resonance.
This happens on both a very small and very large scale. For our purposes, we are talking about the very common idea that our "thoughts create our reality".
This simple statement leads to people making the following mistakes and assumptions, because while thought IS Energy, and it DOES attract, it's not always so straightforward.
How many of these mistakes apply to you?
1. Believing that "Positive Thinking" is enough to attract what you want.
The reality is that many people use various forms of positive thinking on a conscious level (such as affirmations), only to cancel out those thoughts on a subconscious level.
For example, telling yourself "I am lean, healthy, and energetic" when the mirror says something different, usually results in your subconscious saying, "No you're not!!". Further, this subconscious rebuttal is generally highly charged with emotion, and thus a very powerful attractor.
Therefore, if left unchecked, the use of affirmations can give you a very strong OPPOSITE result of those things you are affirming, because at a much stronger level of conviction, you are canceling the positive message with a negative one.
2. Asking yourself, "Well, where is it?"
People ARE impatient. When they learn about the Law of Attraction, they often have high hopes that they will simply make their lists of desires, cut out pictures, or in some other way design their reality, and then after a couple of days, weeks, or even months, they're looking around saying, "Well?? Where is it??"
The problem isn't that the Universe can't deliver quickly. The problem is that you were never REALLY vibrating in a place of trust that what your desires is yours. You are more "testing the theory", then becoming impatient when the Universe doesn't deliver on your time schedule.
What you may not realize is that from the beginning of the process, there has been resistance. There has been a lack of "allowing" in terms of how and when your desire will be fulfilled, which shows itself through your expression of impatience.
Which leads to mistake number 3:
3. Determining ahead of time, HOW and WHEN you will attract what you want.
The law of attraction works because and when you allow it to. The nature of the Universe is infinite. Our conscious minds are not. When we have a desire, we very often tend to "figure out" how the Universe is going to deliver - be it through our jobs, the lottery, or some other source in particular.
When you attach yourself to one particular outcome, you are cutting off an infinite (literally) number of other ways your desire can be attracted.
4. Allowing your emotions to be led by "external evidence".
This is where people tend to give up. Because their experience of reality is different than what they are trying to attract, they allow themselves to feel frustrated, which of course, only acts to attract more of what will frustrate them.
This all starts because there is, on some level, a basic lack of trust that the Law of Attraction actually has scientific basis. Because after all, if you have TOTAL trust/faith, then your vibration will reflect that and two things will happen: 1) Your desire will come to you as quickly as possible, and 2) You literally won't give external reality a second thought, because you'll realize that what you're looking at now is simply a result of what you've been attracting to that point, and that change is on the way provided you hold your NEW vibration consistently.
5. Not taking care of your limiting beliefs that run at a deeper level.
As mentioned earlier, you have a lifetime of limiting beliefs that have helped to create the reality that you are now trying to change. You have manifested everything around you based on these beliefs, and the feelings associated with those beliefs.
These beliefs run so deep, that you hardly consider them "beliefs". They occur to you as just "how things are". Further, these beliefs have very specific emotions attached to them, and chances are you can FEEL these emotions on some level every time one of these beliefs shows themselves.
How will this show up?
Let's suppose you're wanting to manifest a large amount of money. When you think about that, there might be a certain emotion that immediately comes up for you. This might be associated with a thought like, "I'll never be able to attract that. It's too much." This might be connected to a feeling that you don't DESERVE that amount, or you might feel frustrated with the "bigness" of it.
Either way, these negative emotions are the very energy that is REPELLING what you want! When you learn to RELEASE those emotions, you clear the way for the Universe to deliver what you desire, whatever it is. But until and unless you eliminate the resistance, you will not be in vibrational alignment with what you desire, and thus you can NOT experience it!
There are several "releasing" methods available, such as "The Sedona Method", and EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) that can quickly and easily eliminate these energetic blocks.
These are just 5 of the more common mistakes that "newbies" to the Law of Attraction make. There are several more that we list at our web site where we also delve into how to reverse these mistakes so that the Law of Attraction can become a monumentally powerful force in your life!
** To comment on this article or read comments about this article, go here.
About the Author:
Bob Doyle is the founder of Boundless Living and the producer of the "Wealth Beyond Reason" workshop - a complete course in creating Wealth using the principles of Quantum physics and the Law of Attraction available from http://www.WealthBeyondReason.com
After all, imagine that any level of wealth can be yours! Your life can be enriched with the most fulfilling relationships imaginable! You can spend your time doing only those things you love, and in return, experience abundance that seems impossible from the outside looking in!
However, too many people learn only the "basics" of the Law of Attraction, and as a result make 5 common mistakes that make it appear as though this universal law does not apply to them, and in fact gives them results completely OPPOSITE of what they desire.
Before going into these mistakes, let's review what the Law of Attraction actually is. It's deceptively simple: Energy attracts Like Energy.
Broken down a little more, this means that everything in this Universe (physical and non-physical) IS Energy that vibrates at various frequencies. And it is the nature of the vibrations of this Energy to "attract" themselves to vibrations of a similar frequency. In other words, one "cluster" of Energy attracts itself to other "clusters" of Energy in which it is in vibrational resonance.
This happens on both a very small and very large scale. For our purposes, we are talking about the very common idea that our "thoughts create our reality".
This simple statement leads to people making the following mistakes and assumptions, because while thought IS Energy, and it DOES attract, it's not always so straightforward.
How many of these mistakes apply to you?
1. Believing that "Positive Thinking" is enough to attract what you want.
The reality is that many people use various forms of positive thinking on a conscious level (such as affirmations), only to cancel out those thoughts on a subconscious level.
For example, telling yourself "I am lean, healthy, and energetic" when the mirror says something different, usually results in your subconscious saying, "No you're not!!". Further, this subconscious rebuttal is generally highly charged with emotion, and thus a very powerful attractor.
Therefore, if left unchecked, the use of affirmations can give you a very strong OPPOSITE result of those things you are affirming, because at a much stronger level of conviction, you are canceling the positive message with a negative one.
2. Asking yourself, "Well, where is it?"
People ARE impatient. When they learn about the Law of Attraction, they often have high hopes that they will simply make their lists of desires, cut out pictures, or in some other way design their reality, and then after a couple of days, weeks, or even months, they're looking around saying, "Well?? Where is it??"
The problem isn't that the Universe can't deliver quickly. The problem is that you were never REALLY vibrating in a place of trust that what your desires is yours. You are more "testing the theory", then becoming impatient when the Universe doesn't deliver on your time schedule.
What you may not realize is that from the beginning of the process, there has been resistance. There has been a lack of "allowing" in terms of how and when your desire will be fulfilled, which shows itself through your expression of impatience.
Which leads to mistake number 3:
3. Determining ahead of time, HOW and WHEN you will attract what you want.
The law of attraction works because and when you allow it to. The nature of the Universe is infinite. Our conscious minds are not. When we have a desire, we very often tend to "figure out" how the Universe is going to deliver - be it through our jobs, the lottery, or some other source in particular.
When you attach yourself to one particular outcome, you are cutting off an infinite (literally) number of other ways your desire can be attracted.
4. Allowing your emotions to be led by "external evidence".
This is where people tend to give up. Because their experience of reality is different than what they are trying to attract, they allow themselves to feel frustrated, which of course, only acts to attract more of what will frustrate them.
This all starts because there is, on some level, a basic lack of trust that the Law of Attraction actually has scientific basis. Because after all, if you have TOTAL trust/faith, then your vibration will reflect that and two things will happen: 1) Your desire will come to you as quickly as possible, and 2) You literally won't give external reality a second thought, because you'll realize that what you're looking at now is simply a result of what you've been attracting to that point, and that change is on the way provided you hold your NEW vibration consistently.
5. Not taking care of your limiting beliefs that run at a deeper level.
As mentioned earlier, you have a lifetime of limiting beliefs that have helped to create the reality that you are now trying to change. You have manifested everything around you based on these beliefs, and the feelings associated with those beliefs.
These beliefs run so deep, that you hardly consider them "beliefs". They occur to you as just "how things are". Further, these beliefs have very specific emotions attached to them, and chances are you can FEEL these emotions on some level every time one of these beliefs shows themselves.
How will this show up?
Let's suppose you're wanting to manifest a large amount of money. When you think about that, there might be a certain emotion that immediately comes up for you. This might be associated with a thought like, "I'll never be able to attract that. It's too much." This might be connected to a feeling that you don't DESERVE that amount, or you might feel frustrated with the "bigness" of it.
Either way, these negative emotions are the very energy that is REPELLING what you want! When you learn to RELEASE those emotions, you clear the way for the Universe to deliver what you desire, whatever it is. But until and unless you eliminate the resistance, you will not be in vibrational alignment with what you desire, and thus you can NOT experience it!
There are several "releasing" methods available, such as "The Sedona Method", and EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) that can quickly and easily eliminate these energetic blocks.
These are just 5 of the more common mistakes that "newbies" to the Law of Attraction make. There are several more that we list at our web site where we also delve into how to reverse these mistakes so that the Law of Attraction can become a monumentally powerful force in your life!
** To comment on this article or read comments about this article, go here.
About the Author:
Bob Doyle is the founder of Boundless Living and the producer of the "Wealth Beyond Reason" workshop - a complete course in creating Wealth using the principles of Quantum physics and the Law of Attraction available from http://www.WealthBeyondReason.com
Tuesday, April 5, 2011
Want a Happier Life.....Digested from David G. Myers , The Pursuit Of Happiness
Realize that enduring happiness doesn't come from success. People adapt to changing circumstances—even to wealth or a disability. Thus, wealth is like health: its utter absence breeds misery, but having it (or any circumstance we long for) doesn't guarantee happiness.
Take control of your time. Happy people feel in control of their lives. To master your use of time, set goals and break them into daily aims. Although we often overestimate how much we will accomplish in any given day (leaving us frustrated), we generally underestimate how much we can accomplish in a year, given just a little progress every day.
Act happy. We can sometimes act ourselves into a happier frame of mind. Manipulated into a smiling expression, people feel better; when they scowl, the whole world seems to scowl back. So put on a happy face. Talk as if you feel positive self-esteem, are optimistic, and are outgoing. Going through the motions can trigger the emotions.
Seek work and leisure that engages your skills. Happy people often are in a zone called "flow"—absorbed in tasks that challenge but don't overwhelm them. The most expensive forms of leisure (sitting on a yacht) often provide less flow experience than gardening, socializing, or craft work.
Join the "movement" movement. An avalanche of research reveals that aerobic exercise can relieve mild depression and anxiety as it promotes health and energy. Sound minds reside in sound bodies. Off your duffs, couch potatoes.
Give your body the sleep it wants. Happy people live active vigorous lives yet reserve time for renewing sleep and solitude. Many people suffer from a sleep debt, with resulting fatigue, diminished alertness, and gloomy moods.
Give priority to close relationships. Intimate friendships with those who care deeply about you can help you weather difficult times. Confiding is good for soul and body. Resolve to nurture your closest relationship by not taking your loved ones for granted, by displaying to them the sort of kindness you display to others, by affirming them, by playing together and sharing together. To rejuvenate your affections, resolve in such ways to act lovingly.
Focus beyond the self. Reach out to those in need. Happiness increases helpfulness (those who feel good do good). But doing good also makes one feel good.
Keep a gratitude journal. Those who pause each day to reflect on some positive aspect of their lives (their health, friends, family, freedom, education, senses, natural surroundings, and so on) experience heightened well-being.
Nurture your spiritual self. For many people, faith provides a support community, a reason to focus beyond self, and a sense of purpose and hope. Study after study finds that actively religious people are happier and that they cope better with crises.
Digested from David G. Myers, The Pursuit of Happiness (Harper Paperbacks, 1993)
Take control of your time. Happy people feel in control of their lives. To master your use of time, set goals and break them into daily aims. Although we often overestimate how much we will accomplish in any given day (leaving us frustrated), we generally underestimate how much we can accomplish in a year, given just a little progress every day.
Act happy. We can sometimes act ourselves into a happier frame of mind. Manipulated into a smiling expression, people feel better; when they scowl, the whole world seems to scowl back. So put on a happy face. Talk as if you feel positive self-esteem, are optimistic, and are outgoing. Going through the motions can trigger the emotions.
Seek work and leisure that engages your skills. Happy people often are in a zone called "flow"—absorbed in tasks that challenge but don't overwhelm them. The most expensive forms of leisure (sitting on a yacht) often provide less flow experience than gardening, socializing, or craft work.
Join the "movement" movement. An avalanche of research reveals that aerobic exercise can relieve mild depression and anxiety as it promotes health and energy. Sound minds reside in sound bodies. Off your duffs, couch potatoes.
Give your body the sleep it wants. Happy people live active vigorous lives yet reserve time for renewing sleep and solitude. Many people suffer from a sleep debt, with resulting fatigue, diminished alertness, and gloomy moods.
Give priority to close relationships. Intimate friendships with those who care deeply about you can help you weather difficult times. Confiding is good for soul and body. Resolve to nurture your closest relationship by not taking your loved ones for granted, by displaying to them the sort of kindness you display to others, by affirming them, by playing together and sharing together. To rejuvenate your affections, resolve in such ways to act lovingly.
Focus beyond the self. Reach out to those in need. Happiness increases helpfulness (those who feel good do good). But doing good also makes one feel good.
Keep a gratitude journal. Those who pause each day to reflect on some positive aspect of their lives (their health, friends, family, freedom, education, senses, natural surroundings, and so on) experience heightened well-being.
Nurture your spiritual self. For many people, faith provides a support community, a reason to focus beyond self, and a sense of purpose and hope. Study after study finds that actively religious people are happier and that they cope better with crises.
Digested from David G. Myers, The Pursuit of Happiness (Harper Paperbacks, 1993)
Monday, April 4, 2011
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